Category: Trauma

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Who cares what “they” think!

“It’s none of my business what other people think of me” ….said the healing empath.

Have you ever felt like you’re not being your true self because you’re afraid of what others might think?
There is so often this invisible brigade of haters that sit in the background of your life that get to comment on every little thing about you.
It could be in little ways every day that you are sitting under this weighted blanket of having to appease the masses.
And it is soul destroying because you never get to fully expand into your true self.
This manifests in many ways such as lacking in self esteem, wont put your hand up for a promotion, feeling left out a lot, not feeling satisfied in your life, lacking purpose of direction.

Or it could be that you wake up one morning and realise you are in the wrong job, relationship, planet ?

We get caught in this cycle of trying to make others happy that we forget how to make ourselves happy. This king of thinking creeps in and many of us dont even know it is happening. We stay quiet so we dont hear crticism.

We dont go for that new network marketing job cos we know our friends and family are going to scoff and say it is ridiculous – be you KNOW the thought of it lights you up!

We stay in this place of being the good girl long into adulthood, cos we still want our parents to be proud of us – and this comes at the expense of our true happiness.

So if you feel that you aren’t speaking your aligned truth or you aren’t even privately allowing yourself to think in alignment with your truth, it is time to ask who’s truth you’re in?

Society?
Community?
Family?


In order to live a full life you MUST come into alignment and truth of who you actually are. Without rejecting your quirks or loudness or quietness or “too much-ness” or “not enough-ness” .It is time to love allllllll the part of yourself that make you YOU. Anything less is cutting off parts of yourself.
So if you want to DREAM….do it
If you want to SCREAM…do it
Let the frustration out, the smallness, the shutting down, the rejecting self, the ignoring the rising excitement, the keeping the status quo, the biting your tongue, the “making do”, the settling…..let it all out.

And step into YOU

If you need help with this, and know you have blocks, but feel afraid, then lets do some healing work around this.
Book a Health and Wellness session with me and lets start getting YOU back.

Belle xx

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(online and in-person sessions are available)

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Is it time to heal?

Trauma doesn’t have to be some dark awful experience
It can be multiple times of not listening to instinct. Not hearing your inner wisdom.

  • Of ignoring what’s best for you.
  • Of not being listened to by care givers.
  • Of being told you’re being silly.
  • Or too emotional.
  • Or to stop crying.
  • Or to man up.
  • Or stop crying like a girl baby.
  • Or chin up and rise above it.

When we are conditioned to ignore our own feelings we shut down the inner child. We tell her/him that they’re not important. That their feelings are redundant. That they don’t matter.
That is also trauma.
This changes a person.
So as an adult you continue not listening or caring or responding or tending to the inner child’s needs.
Until you can’t ignore it anymore.
Because challenges and crisis emerge. Because cycles repeat. Because the ‘come to Jesus’ moment happens and you find yourself stripped bare on the floor crying your tears of unreleased pain.
And then you cradle your inner child. You hold them til the tears subside. You caress their cheek and tell them they Are safe to be who they are.
And you heal…..

Do you recognise these signs:

Have you found yourself speaking or acting in ways you don’t feel are even “you”?
Have you found yourself becoming resentful of all the things you do for people, for seemingly no thanks?
What about when people speak to you have you noticed that it just isn’t nice and makes you uncomfortable?

Feel taken for granted a lot?

This is a sign it is time to heal your inner child. She/he can be quiet for a really long time, and then what feels like “suddenly” start playing up and acting out. And it can be scary to take a look at yourself.

What does healing the inner child look like?

Well, it is different for most people, so I will share what it feels like instead of how it looks…..it feels like coming back to loving yourself. It feels like home. It feels solid and safe and secure. It feels clear. It feels right.

IF you would like to feel like this, then book a Health and Wellness session with me – in person or online. And together we can explore this beautiful world of inner child work so you can feel more like your old self.

Belle xx

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The Awakening Woman


My Mission: to support other women as they awaken to their true nature and inherent power. Now it is my honour and privilege to work with other women who are feeling the call of their wise woman. Who no longer want to live a life unfulfilled, with resentment and frustration.

Oh hey there Wise Woman,
Thank you for stopping by for a moment.

Being a Wise Woman is a way of life. It is also a source of light that will empower and encourage other women to come out from hiding, to stand in their divine feminine power and to rise as the woman they were created to be. Free download: I have created a simple to follow workbook called “Core Values” that will help you to get very clear on what is important to you in your current season. I know this will help you to develop your ability to listen to your wise woman (your inner wisdom) and live your life from a greater place of alignment and clarity.

You can download it here: https://belle-flowers.mykajabi.com/pl/78624

My Story:
I spent a great many years living from a place where I thought I “should be”. I placed waaaayyy too much importance on what other people “might” say, or what other people “might” think about me. And this caused so much sadness, disappointment and frustration inside of me. When I finally realised the cause of my frustration was that I wasn’t living according to my core values, but to those around me (family, friends, colleagues, employer), I was able to take back control.
As soon as my true values became clear to me, I was able to begin the work of listening to my inner wisdom – this is what I call the Wise Woman. She spoke gently to me, was encouraging and not at all forceful. Because she is the higher self and the source of connection to divine.
I was able to let go of the limiting beliefs I was holding around who I am, and how I show up in the world. I was able to explore finding my confidence and personal power.


As a a woman who is awakening too, I know you already have felt the push-pull inside of you, that part that questions the status quo, and wonders if they were created for something more? (The answer is yes you are!)
Many women these days are returning to their soul, for healing and for truth, to answer the ultimate questions… “am I good enough?”, “am I worthy?” and “am I lovable?”

The truth is you are – YOU ARE.
Let me guide you to realising this for yourself,

Belle xox